girl-mom

Community Advocacy and Support by and for Young Mothers

Just Because...

by Julie

Just because…
You’re on welfare, you’re single, you don’t know who your kid’s dad is, you used to be an addict, you didn’t finish high school, you aren’t old enough to work or drive, vote or drink, you aren’t married, you aren’t rich, you haven’t graduated yet, you live with your parents, you’ve had multiple pregnancies, you did drugs while you were pregnant, you were in a gang, you need to work full time, you have a mental illness, you never liked kids before, you used to be irresponsible, you got in trouble with the law, your own mother sucked, no one believes in you, you have a disability, you are attracted to women, you are a rape/abuse survivor, you don’t know much about taking care of babies, people say you are stupid, your parents kicked you out...

Doesn’t mean you can’t be a good mother.

Don’t let anyone doubt your abilities, including yourself.

There may be experiences written here that you aren’t familiar with. Instead of trying to make a mother feel like she’s less than you, the way some older mothers do to us, try and have compassion and understanding for the women who DO have those experiences. We don’t need to justify our choices or our children to anyone else. We don’t need to say things like, "At least I didn’t have an abortion/am not on welfare/know who my kid’s dad is..." in order to make excuses for being parents at a young age. We have every right to mother, and so do other women in situations we haven’t lived. Let the mama in you respect the mama in her, rather than judging. We get enough of that from the rest of the world, right? Let’s join together, even if we disagree, and fight for ALL our children and ALL our choices. If we have more options, and there are pathways leading from every experience, we have more chances for success.