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Community Advocacy and Support by and for Young Mothers

Why WE LOVE being single and/or young mamas

Compiled by many members of the Girl-Mom community:

- Today I took him to the park, and I'm still energetic and agile enough to run around and climb the monkey bars with him!

- I know I won't hurt myself like my mom used to if I roll around on the floor having a tickle fight!

-I'll still be super young when they are adults

- When they're teenagers I'll just be out of my 20's and I'll still remember what it's like to be young and confused. My mom never did.

- I have the energy now to be rough and tumble.

- I have the energy to do late night feedings school, homework, and play with the babe!

- I love being a young mom. I feel like I understand more and am able to do more!

- I love the fact that I will only be 35 when Kaden is 18!!!

- That I can stay up late and I can still get up early with the baby. LoL I am pretty sure that is a teen thing.

- I love that I can play with Kaden and not get worn out easily.

- I love that I will probably be young still when my kid(s) are out of the house. LoL

- That I know that I can be a great mom AND finish school at the same time.

- I've done so much more with my life because of being a mom that I know I wouldn't have done without kids.

- Having my oldest gave me direction in my life and motivation to live. I seriously don't want to think about where I'd have ended up if it weren't for my kids.

- I get to do all the fun stuff that you still like to do as a teenager, but are supposed to be "too cool" and too old for. Running around the park, going to parades, watching cartoons.

- If I'm lucky, I'll still be young enough to babysit my great grandchildren.

- I've already made it through so many challenges in my life that I know I have a ton of inner strength and can handle whatever life throws at me.

- I will be 36 when my kid goes to college.

- I can still do fun kid stuff like trick or treating, parades, etc. and have a good excuse.

- I have a good reason to stay focused on school.

- I can watch kiddie cartoon and not be made fun of!!!

- I can buy baby oil and the Gerber baby washes and use them for me, and not have anyone think that while I'm standing in line thinking it's for baby! (I LOVE the Honey and Oats body wash!!!)

- even though it CAN be annoying sometimes I get asked if my kid's my sister and I say, no ... my kid. And they say wow, you look young. It's a nice compliment in a weird way because I'm 25 now and look young ... lol.

- I've become more passionate about things because I'm a young mother and want my daughter to grow up in a decent world.

- We can do homework together!

- When my kid is 15, I will be 34.

- I can still act all goofy about it, play on the playground with her, run around all silly, and just be a kid myself.

- It's hard finding yourself as a young mother because you have to direct your kid, too - but at the same time, I think the direction for your kid can help and direct yourself ... so in turn, you're both growing as people together. That's awesome.

The only person who comes into bed and wakes me up is my kiddo.

- After she's in bed, the remote is MINE.

- Everything in my house belongs to me and only me

- I can leave hair in the plug in the bath if I don't feel like cleaning it

- I never have to shave my legs (I wouldn't anyway, but I don't have anyone complaining about it )

- Kiddo and I can do whatever we want at weekends without having to fit someone else's plans.

- I can cook for myself & the kiddo what WE want, even if some plain lasuagna noodles! YUM.

- I can rent WHATEVER movie I want, even if I think it's the silliest movie ever.

- I can buy and listen to music without having someone make some dumb comment about it.

- I can walk around naked all the time.

- I don't need to figure out if I need incorporate my time with someone else besides my kiddo. I LOVE that.

- I NEVER shave & it's amazing to yes, not having someone complain about it.

- I can do things for ME! I can talk a super long bath, put some Kaia on, light up some candles and read my Harry Potter book.

- I can go on trips by myself or just me & the kiddo.

- I can leave my divacup just sitting there without someone "grossing out" by it. (Of course, I clean it!)

- I can be a vegan and not have to worry about it!

- I can focus on ME, MYSELF & I. If that sounds selfish... that's okay - it's so what I need right now. And focusing on my kiddo, it fucking rocks...

- I can take a bath with my kiddo without someone saying its innapropriate cause hes a boy.

- I can not worry about snoring because the only person in my bed is my kiddo.

- I second the walking around naked.

- I can dance around and act goofy with my kid because no one is laughing at me.

- I can leave dishes in the sink for days because J doesnt care.

- thje only reason I get out of bed is for my kid and knowing that I dont do it for any other person is awesome.

- I can wake up with bad breath and my kiddo will kiss me anyway.

- Last but certainly not least, I do not have to arrange my life for anyone else but me and my kid, no thinking about others plans or feelings and no one up my ass to tell me what Im doing wrong.

- We can eat pigs in a blanket for dinner.

- I dont have to "eat like a lady", cuz it aint no man here watching me"

- No Football, basketball is ever on my TV"

- I can LAY on the couch and dont have to share it with anyone else!

- No obligatory sex!

- **Walking around NAKED**- gotta love it

- I don't have to worry about squeezing time with someone else into the spare time I have between work and school and kiddo.

- I do shave sometimes, but its nice not to have anyone to be grossed out when I don't!

- I can make up a nickname for my kid and he can call me Mom-o and no one is there to tell me I'm being a dork... lol

- If I want to turn off my phone and sit at home and read a book all night I don't have to worry about a boy getting mad at me about it (that is seriously like, the thing I love the best after breaking up with bd... he would get so pissed when I did that)

- I can just be me, and listen to the kind of music I want and dress the way I want to dress. Thats the best part about being single I think is that you don't have to be like, so and so's girlfriend or boyfriend you can just be you.

- I can make spontaneous plans with friends.

- I can leave for the weekend on a moments notice.

- I can have totally silly dance parties.

- I can sing to my kiddo sily songs that I make up without getting funny looks.

- I get to have dinner conversations about rabbits and swimming and what we'd look like with food for facial features.

- Nobody else spends my money.

- My kiddo and I are a team and we are so close.

- i totally second the thing someone else said about no football or basketball ever being on the tv. i love that.

- i love that my son and i have such a close relationship, because we only have each other.

- i dont have to share my little man. (i think this is my favorite part)

- i get to make ALL the decisions - whether to take him to church and where, what his rules are, who gets to be a part of his life, etc. im the boss.

- when my son asks for makeup and fingernail polish cuz he sees me putting it on, i can let him without having to hear someone complaining that im making his son "gay"

- i dont have to fulfill demands from anyone other than myself.

- i can turn on some loud music and me and my sonj can dance-clean in our underpants. haha.

- i dont have to worry about my son playing his parents against each other. if i say NO, theres no one else to ask.

- his ray of sunshine shines only on ME. im the lucky one.