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I HATE hearing about other peoples money. **privilage trigger**

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I HATE hearing about other peoples money. **privilage trigger**

Sorry, this is kinda a vent.

Where I work, I work with a variety of different people. Most people have higher education than I do, and they make quite a lot more money than I do. And I am cool with that. They work hard, and deserve what they earn. But seriously. Every. Friggen. Day. All I hear about is money. And the nice things they buy with their money. And their lack of debt. And how they managed through school without student loans. and I sit there, at my desk, just wanting to scream...or beg them...to please. PLEASE..SHUT UP about the damn money. I have none. and I am not jealous. But, it gets to a point, when I have to watch every friggen penny....when I just get soo damn tired of hearing about other peoples cleaning ladies. And I am not eves-dropping. This is people talking to ME!

This is a touchy subject. And I don't want to offend my co-workers. And I dont want to make a stink. And I do enjoy my co-workers. But how the hell, do I tactfully tell others...that I just dont want to talk about it anymore?

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Gah, I know what you mean.

Gah, I know what you mean. And you know what kills me even more though? Hearing people who have way more money than I do and way less debt talk about how broke they are. Seriously, I just want to tell them to STFU.

Umm, so yeah I obviously have no answer. I wish I did.

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I dont think there is a way

I dont think there is a way to deal with it...

Seriously, I was set off yesterday...I came into work, (afternoon shift) tired, and someone asked how I was doing. I said "not bad, a bit tired because I had to clean up the house today"...and there response was "I pay a cleaning lady to do that". I kinda had to internally calm myself for an hour after that.

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That's really obnoxious. I

That's really obnoxious. I think that Rosie's suggestion seems like it might work. Or, you could always address it directly - just say, "Hey, when you talk about abc it kind of bothers me because of xyz. Would you mind toning those conversations down a little while I'm here?" Depending on who your colleagues are, it could be really effective (don't do it if you think they would get offended/defensive/alienate you for addressing something like that directly).

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In response to the cleaning

In response to the cleaning comment, can you say "I can't afford to do that, must be nice!" or something similar that gets the point across that you don't have the money to do things like that. It might make them think twice before saying something like that again.

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Re: I HATE hearing about other peoples money. **privilage ...

this is a reflection of selfesteem issues. It is not common to respond to a " im tired because i cleaned my house" w/ " im soo glad im too rich to do that." that is the statment of someone trying too hard. Rest assured that these people must feel pretty small to have to build themselves up ontop of their posessions.