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I really need help!

Hello, I am 16 years old and I am pregnant. I live in Michigan. I need help because my mother isn't helping me at all. I've been having severe abdominal pain for about two days, but there is no bleeding. I read online that the flatter your stomach is the worse it hurts. I really don't have a stomach at all, well no stomach fat. I would probably be able to pass for anorexic. I really wanted to go to the hospital but she would have to take me, or discharge me, and she's not going to do that. I really need help. :(

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Re: I really need help!

There is no correlation between stomach fat and pain in pregnancy. What you read online before is a myth.

If you are having severe abdominal pain you should absolutely seek medical attention. It could be something serious, but only a doctor can tell you for sure!

I did some digging with the help of a few former girlmoms, and here's what we found:

Although Michigan is not a state with automatic legal emancipation for pregnant minors, so typically you would need your mother's consent to seek medical treatment, there is an exception for treatment related to pregnancy and prenatal care.

See this document: http://www.michbar.org/programs/pdfs/thelaw.pdf

Secion 1.2

"May I authorize (give permission for) my own medical care? Usually, a doctor needs permission from your parents or guardian before treating you. However, you may give permission for or approve your own health care for some conditions. For example, you may authorize your own treatment for drug abuse, testing and treatment for venereal disease or HIV, and any medical treatment related to prenatal care or pregnancy. This does not include abortion services. See section on parental waivers for abortions."

That is to say, you absolutely have the right to seek treatment for this whether your unhelpful mom would take you to/discharge you from the hospital or not.

So GO!! Go to the hospital and get the help you need, with or without your mother's permission.

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P.S. Is that enough? Or - other than the legal side of things - are there further barriers that are preventing you from getting care?

Please let us know how it goes!

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The hospital will not turn you away if you are experiencing a medical emergency, and abdominal pain is one of the things hospitals will always check people for, because it could be anything, like appendicitis or sometging related to another organ. Especially if you are pregnant. How far along are you? It could be preeclampsia, in which case getting to the ER is very important. Can you take a cab or get a ride with a friend? If not, and you are in school, talk to the school nurse and they will help you get to the ER. Good luck!

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I hope you have ready the responses and are already getting checked out. Please don't wait. Definitely go to a school nurse/counselor if you need help figuring out how to get there.

Does your mother know that you are pregnant? Is she not willing to get you medical treatment because your symptoms could be pregnancy related?

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Please update us and let us know how you are...

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I hope you figured out what is going on. :/ Please update us!

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Are you okay, KCroff? What happened with this?

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I agree with the others ladies, go to the ER, they wont turn you back if you need medical care, I hope it all works out for you and keep us updated

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You should definitely find some sort of physical support( a friend, a school nurse) just in case something happens and your mom is unwilling to help. I hope everything is okay! Kept us updated

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I am so sorry your mother is

I am so sorry your mother is not helping you. That is terrible. I hope you took the advice of these wonderful mamas and went to the hospital.