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new mom at 19

Hi! my name is cassandra. I am a new mother to a BEAUTIFUL baby boy named Tristyn ( my own personal twist to the spelling of the noble knight's name). I got pregnant during my first semester at college, lost my best friends over it, and shook the foundation of my entire family. so far its been more than just a struggle for me but everyday im reminded how blessed i am when i look at this amazing life i created. sometimes it's just so hard, being shut out of my social circle and being forced to do this virtually alone. fortunately my baby's father is present and despite popular skepticism, we are happier than ever.I've recently re-enrolled in college to try and better my life for me as well as my family, but the attacks are never ending. there is always something or someone to knock me down every time i get back up. I really just wanted to introduce myself and immerse in this community and would love any advice the more experienced moms may have to offer =] thanks i look forward to chatting with some of you

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:)

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Congratulations and welcome to girlmom! Be sure to check out the mission statement and stickies to get a good idea of what this site is all about. How old is your baby now? I got pregnant with my oldest during my first semester of college too, and I definitely think it's worth continuing your education.

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Congratulations! And just a reminder that you're in the right place.
The best advice that I was given, pregnant at 18 y.o., was
"Trust yourself! You know in your heart what is best for you and your baby."
Find other young Mummies and Daddies. That really was something that I wish I would have done.
I was in a really difficult and frustrated situation, quite similar to yours. I really didn't like how others treated me and my son like we were not a family just because I was young and not married.
Relish in soaking up every minute with your new babe and with Daddy before school starts again.
Despite what popular social interest is, I regretted going back to school so early in my son's life (which is the only thing that I regret in all of my life choices thus far). I missed out on his infancy and toddlerhood.
Just do what you feel is best for you and your family. That's the most important thing now and if that's going back to school now that's what you should do.
My husband often says to me, "Isn't it interesting how life always works itself out?"
Have fun too! There's always fun to be had.
Peace!

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Welcome!

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Welcome to girl mom! I'm Charlie. I've got a six year old kiddo now. The baby baby years go so fast.

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welcome! I got pregnant first sem too! I missed a semester... education is important! At 23, I am starting grad school as my to be 4 year old starts preschool :-) I dont feel like I missed a lot of his younger years because if I hadn't been at school I would have been working full time and I think I would have missed more going that route. With school, I was actually home during the day sometimes.

Anyway, welcome! we are glad to have you here.

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Welcome to girl mom!

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Hey welcome! I know how it is to lose your social circle, and now you have a harder time finding your "niche" as kidless friends don't "get" a lot and other moms all seem older or alternatively some younger moms seem not so focused:(. But there are lots of really smart, motivated, happy, young mommas out there. Try your best to put yourself out there and remember, there are lots of other lonely moms out there too!

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I would love to be more social and have more "mom" friends but I don't think I really know how, especially in the community i live in. =/

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welcome!

i got pregnant at 19 and take to take some time off after my son was born. i took a year off and went back before he was a year. i was able to complete my schooling and start my masters. i know of more then a few mamas on here that have done the same. so it can be done. it just is a bit trickier!

anyway, welcome and i hope you stick around. DS is now almost 8 and i came here when i was 19!

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Hey and welcome to the site :) I was 19 as well when I got pregnant, went through the same thing with friends, your kidless friends end up drifting away for the most part. The good thing is though, you get to learn who your true friends are - the ones that still stick by you, and you open up the door to a new array of mama friends - like us! :)

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Congrats on the birth of your son, I got pregnant at 19 as well and I had wonderful support from my friends and family. My son's father and I are still together after almost 9 years and currently expecting our second together, so it may be tough right now but it will get better, this is a wonderful site and we offer great support and advice here

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Congrats and Welcome!

I got pregnant with my first child before I went back to school (college). It was tough going back, but very rewarding in the long run.

You have definatly found yourself in the right place. Most of the mama's here have struggled through with school with little ones, and endured the constant headache of ignorant people trying to make our lives hell. We are hear to support eachother, and over-come the negativity that is hurled our way!

My name is Alison. I have a 6 year old and a 2 1/2 year old. I am a Social Worker, working in Mental Health Crisis. I look forward to chatting further!

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Hi my name is Brittany. I got pregnant at 16 and was 17 when my son was born. He is almost 2 now and i def understand the importance of school. It is important to do what you think is best for you and your baby. Im sorry to hear that about your troubles. Im glad that a place like this exists for mommies like us.