I don't want to get into this in another thread where it was brought up but I just wanted to remind some people about why posting about our weights could be offensive.
If you state that you were or are a certain number of pounds (ex. 145 lbs.) or whatever and that for whatever reason, you're unhappy with that, it could be offensive to other people that weigh a different amount.
For some people, that could be a weight goal to drop to, or even far under it. When someone is struggling with losing weight or accepting themselves, that could be like a huge slap in the face. That's hurtful to some people.
Our goal here is to be a community that is sympathetic and empathetic to the feelings of EVERYONE here. For that reason, we should REALLY think about everything that we post and say and consider if it COULD be offensive to even one person here. This isn't about "free speech" or whatever because things we say could be hurtful.
This isn't the place to chat openly like we do in privacy with our best friends. We need to censor ourselves out of CONSIDERATION for others here. It's not our "right" to be hurtful to other people.
If you are concerned with something about weight, you could phrase it differently, elliminating the actual poundage that you are.
For example, you could say that you gained XX pounds during pregnancy and you're having trouble with that last XX pounds. We don't need to know how many pounds you were or are.
If you're concerned with a physical problem (baby pooch), you could mention that without using words like "fat" or "gross." That's hurtful!!! I wouldn't want to come here and see things like that and then look at myself and feel terrible!!!
THAT is why we should be considerate of those around us even if we, ourselves, are ok with sharing numbers!! If you MUST share those numbers, wait until you've made a few close friends on the site and talk about those things in PMs or Instant Messengers or email. And if someone tells you that you're being offensive or hurtful, please don't lash out. You're only going to hurt people's feelings, making yourself unwelcome.
The mods here have a very difficult job keeping this a safe place for EVERYONE. If there is one person acting out and hurting many different people, the mods are going to have to act in favor of the masses.
I may not be phrasing everything quite right and I may be omitting important factors. If anyone has the words to elaborate on this, please do.
This post isn't to call anyone out or point fingers; I just would like to explain WHY certain "rules" are established at this site so that girls, especially new members, can understand why it is that we should censor ourselves our of respect.
Help me out, girls!!