What do you choose?
What's ideal vs. what's available?
I'm at an impasse with my oldest son's education.
We started out with a traditional public school (that is what was available and all I could manage at that time) while doing Home Schooling projects during the long breaks and lulls. He thrived this way educationally but socially struggled through his days.
He now goes to a Waldorf inspired public charter school.
The mission of the school is a beautifully woven mixture of Waldorf education and the expectations of the public school district.
He gets music twice a week, movement (P.E.) twice a week, and Outdoor School. This is unheard of in most public schools these days.
More than half of the boys (about 1/3 of the class) is disrespectful to the point of constant disruption. The teacher spends a lot of his time redirecting these students. My oldest has ADD and cannot focus on his class work because of all the disruption. He barely passed his grade last year and is starting out the year with the same struggles.
My partner and I are at a point in our lives that we can Home School.
I used the think that only the wealthy had the option of Home Schooling their children. With the handy dandy internet and the fact that we live in a State that is very supportive of Home Schooling families i.e. home schooling groups form everything from lego club to group forest hikes to construction workshops. This dream I've had to Home School is in reach for our family.
However, we waited two years to get into this school. Reapplying each year and just hoping that our names would be drawn in the lottery. Although, the school seems to be only a portion of what they promised in the beginning.
The class that my oldest is in has seemed to lost sight of the mission of the school. Many of the parents of the disruptive students have put an oh-so-convenient veil of "Freedom of Speech" on their child's rude attempts at gaining attention from the class.
I don't want my children to think that freedom of speech is: saying whatever you want to say, whenever you want to say it, without thought of recourse for your words which may be hurtful to others.
Yet more importantly, my children (all children) deserve a healthy and safe learning experience.
So do I continue working with the administration, teachers and parents that are willing and able to push for change? Just hoping that it all works out in the next few years. Or do I gently pull my son out of this school so that I can give him the kind of education I feel he deserves now?
I struggle with this because I am an advocate for community and social change. I don't walk away from things very easily but I know that sometimes walking away is the best change that can happen. Every time I think I we have decided what to do with our oldest education I digress and think otherwise.
I would love to hear some thoughts on what your ideal educating system is for your children, what you chose or will choose, and why.